(from The Cathy J Weblog)

Its sad when someone claims they want "community" (an overused word if there ever was one), but pass up so many opportunities to be a part of it. Some people seem to want relationship on their terms - when they are in control. Doesn't turn into any type of a true relationship that way - it stays on a pretty surface level. Then they can't figure out what is missing. Could be the willingness to commit, to take the chance to hurt and care.